There are hard sayings in God’s Word. That is, to the unlearned they seem hard—not having sought God to know Him, to love Him. So it is that we misunderstand Him and accuse Him falsely. This is why people label God a tyrant, unkind, too strict, extreme. But if we love Him, if we have His Spirit in us (having asked God for His Spirit), we will know and understand what He is telling us. And we will see that it really is not hard. It is love.
Let that sink in.